Milestone for the Whole Family February 23, 2010
Posted by Emily in : Friends, Little Man Dallin, Parenthood, Photography, Thoughts , trackbackC-sections are not easy.
Planned. Not planned. I’ve done both.
It’s not the worst thing in the world, it’s not the best.
The most painful time of the c-section does not happen when you are getting your spinal. It does not happen when you are being gutted like a deer either.
No.
That part is actually great because you don’t feel a dang thing, and if you’ve never experienced labor pains that accompany a vaginal birth, you might wonder what all the “pain” hype is about.
The most painful part of a c-section comes 24 hours after surgery.
You are well enough to get up and walk around the hospital like a little old lady with your new boyfriend, the IV, but IT DOES NOT FEEL GOOD. And you keep having to get up out of your bed using abdominal muscles that don’t work because they have been pried apart. Laughing, taking deep breaths, and sneezing are THE WORST.
You ban anyone funny from visiting you. I had to ban Brian.
I met Emily on day two of my c-section.
Why do I remember this patient care tech so well?
She was helping clean me up after some serious blood loss (not good, Dr’s and nurses came in and I was all, “Am I going to die? How much blood is too much to loose?) and in making small talk (I’m sure to distract me from the severity of the situation) Emily told me she understood how much pain I was in. She had two c-sections, and it was her opinion that day two was the worst.
I asked her how old her kids were, and she told me they would be two and one, but both of them had passed away.
GULP.
What?
I was no longer concerned about my minor medical issues of losing lots of blood (nurses and Dr’s still scurrying around the room) and I was sick to my stomach that a young mother had lost TWO babies.
She had TWO c-sections to boot.
Both of her babies had heart defects and did not live longer than five weeks.
Six moths after my chance meeting with her, she and her husband adopted this little guy:
And I got to photograph him for his birthday. He just turned one a couple of days ago.
This is a HUGE milestone for their little family. She never knew if they’d ever get to see one of their kids turn one.
And he is A-D-O-R-A-B-L-E.
And a ham for the camera. :)
Emily has such an inspiring story. Congratulations to all of them!
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He is so adorable. Love his hair!
Wow. This post totally made me cry. I can’t imagine going through that. What a strong woman. I can’t wait to read all about her story. And how adorable is their little guy?! I could just eat him all up. His dimples are heavenly. He has the cutest smile. These pictures are are fabulous!
C-sections are no fun at all. I remember crying when they said they’d take the catheter out and that I had to get in/out of bed. Impossible, I thought.
He is sooo cute! I can’t even imagine the pain of losing two children. I am having my 4th csection the first week of May. Although it isn’t pleasant recovering, I am grateful the option is there and that you hopefully get a healthy baby in the end.